Family Split Apart
A family split apart for any reason is difficult. It’s almost impossible when it’s because the newest member is sick and in the hospital.
Even though the birth of a baby is sometimes stressful, it’s usually a very joyful time for a family. When the baby is born too early, too small, or too sick, it can be scary for everyone involved, especially the siblings. They may be too young to understand fully what is going on, but they still can sense that something is wrong. Especially when it takes Mom and Dad away from them.
When I gave birth to my twins at 25 weeks, I had a 2-year-old at home. He didn’t understand why mommy had to lay down most of the pregnancy (bed rest) or why she had to go and stay at the hospital. In fact, we had never been apart for even a night before my pregnancy. He was shuffled from Grandparents to Aunts and Uncles’ houses, and didn’t understand why. Everyone told me that he would never remember and be fine, but it still hurt me deeply. I missed being able to take care of him, and just missed him.
Once the babies were in the NICU, it was like I had to split my heart in two. They only allowed children over the age of 3 in the hospital. Plus, it was a dark, quiet place, for preemies and sick babies to heal, and not a place for toddlers. Having your heart and family split apart is something no mother should ever have to do.
But, we do it. No matter how hard it is for everyone involved, we do it because we love everyone involved. Today’s parents know the struggle of having family split apart and siblings at home while their baby struggles in the NICU.
Please meet Casey, as told by her Mom, Karen.
1. Tell us about your baby.
2. How long was your NICU stay? What was the hardest part?
3.Do you know what caused your premature birth?
4.How are you and your baby doing now?
She’s doing very well. She is 7 months old now, 4 adjusted. She is hitting gross motor development. She is slightly delayed with language, however, they tell me this is very common for a micro preemie that was vented for so long.