Sleep is definitely one of the hardest parts of parenting. Usually no one is getting enough of it. I hardly remember the first 6 months of my oldest child’s life because I was so sleep deprived.
People also have very strong opinions on sleep.
“Co-sleeping is not acceptable!”
“Co-sleeping is best for the baby.”
“Sleep training is the only way your baby will ever sleep through the night.”
“I can’t let my baby cry!”
It’s really hard to know what’s best when everyone is telling you something different.
Well, today, I’m going to try to tackle a question about sleep…along with my wonderful panel of mommy bloggers on our third Ask Away Thursday. If you missed the first two, you can read them HERE and HERE. Ask Away Thursday is a chance for you to ask me and my mommy blogger tribe for our advice on a parenting question or situation. Danielle from Serene Mom , Iyanna from Yannivlovely, Nikki from Healing Mama Remedies, and Irina from Homegrown Adventures will be weighing in on the question too. So, here it is:
My mommy question is, how long did it take you to get your child to go to sleep by himself? My son is 6, and he always wants me to lie down with him at night. I have been doing it since he was 3, but thought he would grow out of it.
Honestly, I could have written this question myself.
My oldest child has never been a good sleeper. He flat out refused to sleep in his crib, after sleeping the first couple months in a bassinet. He ended up co-sleeping with us until he was almost 3-years-old.
Since then, he occasionally sneaks in our bed in the middle of the night, and my husband always has to read him a story and lay down with him for a few minutes at bedtime. My son is also 6-years-old now, and in kindergarten.
In answer to your question, and how we’re tackling this at our house, is slowly stopping the laying down part. My husband doesn’t mind reading him a story, but then he gets tired and wants to wind down himself. So, he’s been staying in for an extra 10 minutes and leaving, even if my son is still awake…unless my husband has fallen asleep too. I think next, he’ll decrease to 5 minutes, until it’s just a story, and goodnight.
I think all children and their sleep habits are very different. Our twins, for example, went straight from their Rock ‘N Plays to cribs no problem. We always just put them in their cribs, now toddler beds, and they put themselves to sleep. No waking in the night or sneaking in (well, their door is closed so they couldn’t escape if they wanted to.)
So, while you may be ready for him to get to sleep on his own, he’s just not quite there yet, and that’s OK. Just take it slow, so that you’ll both be comfortable and everyone can get a good night’s sleep.
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