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Fighting for Answers; Kyliana’s Story

February 20, 2017 By Shann 24 Comments

Fighting For Answers

As a parent, seeing your child hurt or sick is one of the worst feelings you can experience. You want to do everything in your power to help them and take away their pain. You would give anything to change places with them. Fighting for answers as to why they are struggling is not even a question. You do whatever you need to do to get them healthy again.

I’ve read some amazing stories about parents advocating for the health of their children, and today’s story is one of them. Not only did Heather fight for answers during her pregnancy, but she continued to advocate for her daughter’s health throughout her NICU stay, and subsequent hospital stays.

As a NICU mom, I am truly in awe of the strength it must have taken to go back to the hospital once you think you’ve come home to stay. But, as a mother, you must find that strength however and wherever you can. Your baby is depending on you.

I’m so honored to bring you Kyliana’s story, as told by her mom, Heather. You will see such amazing strength from the entire family as they navigate their journey and fight for those answers.

After a complication arose during pregnancy, sweet Kyliana's parents were still fighting for answers as she fought through numerous surgeries.

Meet Kyliana

1. Tell us about your baby.

Our little lady was expected to be our Valentine baby, but instead became our Christmas miracle. 10 days before Christmas, in a dramatic entrance into the world, our sweet daughter Kyliana was born. She was born 9 weeks early, at 31 weeks, weighing 3 pounds.
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First family photo. 12 hours old and snuggling.

2. Do you know what caused your premature birth?

Kyliana was premature because of a condition that we discovered at 29 weeks. It was then, our world got completely flipped upside down.
Before that, I had an easy, normal pregnancy. No morning sickness, and no concerns whatsoever. That is, until my last few appointments. All of a sudden, she was measuring bigger and bigger. With no real reason why, I asked to have an ultrasound done to make sure everything was ok. That’s where they found the ‘double bubble’.
She was diagnosed with duodenal atresia. A condition where your duodenum (part of your small intestine) didn’t form properly. We were sent immediately to BC Women’s and Children hospital in Vancouver for further testing.  We were told we had to deliver there, as she would need surgery almost immediately after birth. We were beyond overwhelmed & overtaken with fear.
Babies start swallowing the amniotic fluid at 23 weeks. Because she had a blockage where the duodenum is, she was throwing everything back up that went down. This was causing a large excess of amniotic fluid in my uterus. It was because there was so much extra fluid and pressure, my body thought it was go time. At 30 weeks, I went into early labour.
Fortunately, the doctors were able to stop labour with an amniocentesis where they removed 5 lbs. of fluid from my belly. Just a few short days later, I went into labour again, and this time they couldn’t stop it. At 3:45am, she was here! And just as fast as she arrived into this world, she was swept away by NICU nurses and doctors. Not only were we suddenly left adjusting to being new parents, but instead of cuddling and bonding with our baby, we could only watch her through the incubator.  We had to put our trust into complete strangers to take care of sweet, innocent newborn baby. Although they were strangers then, they quickly became the most important people in your lives.
Two days later our little preemie daughter would need to go for surgery. This was the scariest day of our lives (up until that point), filled with so much fear. These surgeons and doctors hands were bigger than our little Kyliana’s little body.
How would they perform major surgery, and repair something that was so very small?
And what if it didn’t work?
What if something went wrong?
Those questions and about a million other uncertainties ran through our heads as we waited… and waited…. 1 hour… 2 hours… 3 hours went by before we finally heard that it was a success!
She would be in recovery until she woke up and could see her then. A feeling of relief that could never be explained in words swept over us. At the time, we thought the worst was over. Were we ever wrong. We had only just hopped on the roller coaster ride. There were still several twists and turns to come.
Kyliana fighting

3. How long was your NICU stay? What was the hardest part?

Our stay in the NICU was 56 days. Then, we had 1 day in the hospital in our hometown after being transferred home. There were so many “hardest parts.” For us as parents, it was being away from home, watching your baby helplessly day in a day out, and getting our hopes up one day to being crushed the next. There were so many times we felt we were in a ‘one step forward two steps sometimes three back’ situation.
Kyliana fighting for answers
With Dad and Mom
It was 10 full days before we could introduce food to her. TEN. She had her nutrients that she needed through iv, but at 10 days old she was given an ng tube and had to learn from the beginning. For example, she would be given 1 ml (yes only 1 over a 12 hour period). She was receiving less than a drop an hour. Her body needed to learn how to eat and digest. On top of that, she had major surgery, so we knew it was going to be a slow process.
Despite how slow and how hard each moment was, we saw her overcome so many hurdles. The staff was amazed and so were we. She is truly the strongest human I’ve ever known.
Finally, on day 56 we got to go HOME. This was the most exciting day for us, and we were thrilled!
Little did we know, it would be short-lived. Two weeks to be exact. We were home for two weeks, when her regular vomiting and spitting up became even worse. She was lethargic and had become jaundice.
We waited in emergency for hours. We were admitted and ended up staying in our local hospital for 6 days before they told us that we had to be airlifted back to Vancouver. They could not figure out what was wrong. Understandably with her history, they couldn’t take any chances.
This was beyond devastating for us. We just got home and started to get feel for a routine… but our baby girl was so very sick again. And, her health took precedence above all else.
To make a long story short, we were back and forth between home and Children’s hospital for 3 months with our medical mystery baby. Kyliana underwent test after test, MRI’s, so much blood work, and even had a specialist come in to perform an endoscopy that had never been performed on an infant as young as her before. Many of these procedures required general anesthetic and she was put under. This is just to name a few.
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Incubator living and recovery.
It was such a trying, difficult time for us all. Some days, it felt like it may never end. It is excruciating pain as parents to watch your child suffer so much and not be able to help at all. Then they decided to take her off breast milk and switch her to a specialty formula. This was another heartbreak for me as a mom. In the end though, this ended being such a blessing. We finally saw her eat well and be able to digest some nutrients.
After months of uncertainty of Kyliana’s future, she began to show signs of liver damage. It was decided that they could no longer afford to wait and that they needed to do a blind surgery to fix the problem.The problem was, they weren’t exactly sure what it was. Their best guess was something with her bile ducts not draining and cleaning out her liver.
Thanks to a miracle, and AMAZING surgeon and team, our five-month-old survived another major surgery. It went well, and they were convinced they were able to fix the issue. She had a bypass surgery called a roux-en-y. They repaired the issue with the bile duct, removed her appendix and gallbladder and she was once again recovering.
As much as they prepare you, and you try to prepare yourself there is nothing scarier than walking into the ICU and seeing your baby hooked up to so many machines and wires. It stops you in your tracks. You want to trade places with her and take away all her pain. Day by day, Kyliana showed her endless strength and courage and overcame so many obstacles. From something as small as breathing again on her own to her first smile.
fighting through surgery
First smile 6 days after second surgery.
She also suffered a huge blood clot in her groin and needed to be given a needle in her leg twice a day for 3 months. I had to give it to her which felt like the most horrible thing at the time.
About a week after her surgery we were discharged again, and allowed to make our journey home, once again. Although we weren’t out of the woods, yet we felt so many emotions, and were so thankful to be walking out of there WITH our baby girl. There continued to be some complications including an infection called Cholangitis from her surgery. We had been prepared for this possibility. As a result of this infection, Kyliana ended up back in hospital to treat the infections five more times over her first year and a half of life. Although it was extremely hard, we were always in the best hands. She has an amazing team of amazing humans behind her, and they take the very best care of her. We are forever grateful to both hospitals, her Pediatrician and team.
Kyliana fighting and winning
Happy girl around 10 months old

 4. How are you, your family, and your baby doing now?

 We are so very pleased to say that Kyliana recently celebrated her second birthday. As of last month, she is 10 months Cholangitis free and 6 months hospital free!!!
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She is the happiest, sweetest little girl, very smart, independent, caring and super-duper sassy. Haha. She’s the light of our lives and we are blessed everyday we get to spend with her. She continues to amaze us with all the new things she learns everyday. We’re learning the ABC’s, counting, colours, shapes and so much more.
Her favourite things include the slide at the park, the wiggles, sesame street, colouring, having tea parties making mommy and daddy tea and cookies, her big, big family & dancing!!
fighting through surgeries and more

5. What advice do you have for a new preemie parent?

Never give up!! Not that it is even an option, but just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Even on the darkest days (and there will be many) there’s always something good in that day. Even if you don’t see it.
Accept the offers for help. Don’t feel guilty about getting some rest away from baby, try to eat properly as best as you can. This is something I did not do, we ate dinners out of the vending machine some days, and it takes a toll.
And the biggest piece of advice I can offer is that you are the ONLY advocate for your child’s health. If you have questions, ASK them. If you don’t understand something, have someone clarify, if you don’t agree, speak up. Come up with a plan that suits both your baby, the doctors and yourselves. They are amazing people and are there to work with you. I also wish I wasn’t so anxious and in a hurry to go home with her. This not only caused unnecessary stress & complaining, it did nothing to speed up the process.
I can’t say ‘enjoy’ it, but don’t make it worse than it is. Just live each day with the hopes that it will be better than the last, and keep your head up. If we can take anything away from our NICU experience, it is that even on the days we felt we had no strength, watching Kyliana show the world her courage and strength, fed us the amount we needed to carry on.
So here’s to all those amazing babies, parents, hospitals, doctors, nurses, Ronald McDonald houses, families, friends, and the list could go on forever.. We could have never gotten through this all without each and every person who was there for us. From a simple message, to the ones who prayed for us, to raising money for us, hugging us, bringing us meals, giving us a place to rest our heads, visiting, calling, and to my Alex for being my absolute rock through it all. When I felt like I couldn’t take any more, you constantly brought me back down and reminded me what we were fighting for. I love you. Always.
fighting thru

Thank you so much to Heather for sharing her story and sweet Kyliana with us. I’m so happy that she’s doing well now, and can’t wait to hear more updates. She is such a strong little girl, and I know we’ll see some amazing things from her.

Please leave any questions or supportive comments for Heather and her family below.

 

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Comments

  1. Charlotte says

    February 20, 2017 at 8:39 am

    I can’t even imagine the rollercoaster ride that parents of preemies have to go through… from discovering new and foreign symptoms (I’ve never even heard of a double bubble!) to having an early birth and having your baby whisked away… 🙁 it’s just heartbreaking. Especially since this can go on for months. I love that you feature these stories here… if only to let other parents of preemies know they are not alone (and also to let others know of some of the complications).

    XO and hope all is well with you, Shann!

    Reply
    • Heather Dee says

      February 20, 2017 at 11:33 pm

      ❤️❤️If we can help even one family see that it is possible to make it through, even when it feels impossible, we’re happy to share.

      Reply
  2. shelah moss says

    February 20, 2017 at 9:00 am

    What a scary time and what a precious girl. Thank goodness that the doctors knew how to help her. Thank you for sharing your story!

    Reply
    • Heather Dee says

      February 20, 2017 at 11:28 pm

      Thank you, we’re so grateful for each and every one of them!

      Reply
  3. Amanda Rodriguez says

    February 20, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    What a sweet baby!!! 🙂 I’m glad she’s doing well!

    Reply
    • Heather Dee says

      February 20, 2017 at 11:28 pm

      Thank you❤️❤️❤️

      Reply
    • Lucy says

      February 26, 2020 at 7:11 pm

      Amazing and heartwarming!
      My twin and I were premature and spent 3 months in the hospital.
      This was in August 1942! Greenwood, Mississippi was the place of our birth.
      There were no NICU’s or anything except prayer and excellent nursing care!
      Jane and I are 77 years old and heard many unbelievable stories from our dear mother all the days of our lives!
      Daddy never discussed it!
      Now I would have enjoyed hearing how this affected him as well! I am sure he was overwhelmed!
      So, never give up!
      Praise God From Whom All Blessings Flow!
      Lucy

      Reply
  4. Kristie McCollum says

    February 20, 2017 at 2:25 pm

    Such a beautiful gift. I am so glad this family overcame. Many families don’t get to bring their little angels home. This is definitely a blessing! Thank you for sharing such a beautiful testimony.

    Reply
    • Heather Dee says

      February 20, 2017 at 11:30 pm

      Thank you, I hope it can help other families. We are SO blessed to have brought her home, a few times over. ??

      Reply
  5. Shortsweetmom says

    February 20, 2017 at 4:51 pm

    What an amazing story. Thank you so much for sharing! I am happy that little Kyliana is doing so well!

    Reply
    • Heather Dee says

      February 20, 2017 at 11:31 pm

      Thank you!!! ❤️

      Reply
  6. Momma Addict says

    February 20, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    I am a physician who has cared for children in the NICU. We are all very proud when we have NICU graduates!

    Reply
    • Heather Dee says

      February 20, 2017 at 11:32 pm

      It is such an amazing accomplishment that should be celebrated! Thank you for all that you do! ?

      Reply
  7. Heather Dee says

    February 20, 2017 at 11:41 pm

    Thank you Shann for sharing our story!!
    We are a very lucky family to have our sweet little lady in our lives! Sharing & raising awareness for prematurity, and the importance of health care and nurses, doctors, hospitals, equipment and on and on… Is so important to us. And it’s just something that most people say ‘it’ll never happen to me’ or ‘I’ll never need to use that’ but the reality is, you never know. We want to make people informed. We were so naive and clueless going into this, and what an eye opener it has been, as you and your beautiful family know.!!! ??

    Reply
    • Shann Eva says

      February 21, 2017 at 9:41 am

      Thank you for sharing sweet Kyliana with us. You have been through such a journey, and I really think people will learn so much. Thank you for wanting to raise awareness!

      Reply
  8. Chelsea Padgett says

    February 21, 2017 at 1:09 am

    Such an incredible story. Thank you for sharing. So glad to see she is thriving.

    Reply
  9. TheJerseyMomma says

    February 21, 2017 at 11:52 am

    Wow, these stories always amaze me but this one blew me away. The strength of these parents- God bless them!! Their daughter is absolutely beautiful. I have a feeling she is destined for greatness!

    Reply
  10. Meghna says

    February 21, 2017 at 11:54 am

    My tears dropped when I read it but I ended the article with a smile on my face and blessings for little K. I wanna send hugs to her parents and I wanna tell them just how strong and blessed they are to survive this kind of stress. Happy days ahead!

    Reply
  11. KidCongeniality says

    February 21, 2017 at 7:16 pm

    I am so happy that Kyliana is thriving! NICU staff are amazing people. What a tough job they have!

    Reply
  12. Krystal Miller says

    February 21, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    What an amazing story! I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been, but glad she is doing so well!

    Reply
  13. Ashton Taylor says

    February 22, 2017 at 2:41 am

    As a fellow preemie mama, I feel for you on so many levels. We spent 140 days in the NICU before our first discharge. We were home for 24 hours exactly when he stopped breathing, his RT was there and did CPR as I called 911, we were readmitted to the NICU for 48 hours observation, they said it was a one off situation and discharged us again…. FOUR hours later he stopped breathing in my husbands arms!! He called 911 and I did CPR on my sweet 6pound baby boy, we were again re admitted to the NICU for 15 days, and I fought with them had so many meetings with administration about what was missed and why we were re admitted TWICE after discharge. After 15 days in The NICU my son was to big and we were transfered to the Stollery Children’s hospital for another 33 days and we fought hard to find out what was going on. He had a small pinhole in the bottom of his left lung and the oxygen machines we had at home were different than what the hospital had and it cause pressure differentials which caused him to stop breathing.
    It healed without surgery. I know how it is to fight, and I am sending you live and hugs from one preemie mama to another

    Reply
  14. Stephanie Lee says

    February 22, 2017 at 10:33 am

    Wow what an incredible story! Truly an honor to read. I’m so happy she’s doing so well! And look at those adorably chubby cheeks!!

    Reply
  15. Tracy Shaw says

    February 22, 2017 at 7:33 pm

    It is so incredibly amazing what doctors can do and how far modern medicine has come. I’m just in awe of them and these sweet parents’ strength through all of this. Thanks for sharing their story.

    Reply
  16. CourtneyLynne Storms says

    February 24, 2017 at 8:06 am

    Omg what a story!!!! So happy to hear your sweet little one is doing great now 🙂

    Reply

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