Patience is a very hard thing to have when your baby is in the hospital. You want to be able to fast forward through all the scary first few days/weeks, and get to the part where you are going home with a healthy baby.
Unfortunately, the NICU, and life, just doesn’t work like that.
You can’t rush through anything in the NICU. Even though you want to be home, you know it’s the best place for your premature baby. You, the doctors, and the nurses want to make sure your baby is getting the best possible care and in the best health before you take them home.
Today, we meet Adeline. Her mother, Taelor, has some wonderful advice regarding patience for all new preemie parents. She also learned a lot from her and her daughter’s journey, and I’m so happy to be able to share it with you today.
1. Tell us about your baby
My daughter’s name is Adeline. She was born at 25 weeks, weighing 1 lb 10.5 oz and was 12 inches long.
2. How long was your NICU stay? What was the hardest part?
Our NICU stay was 77 days. The hardest part for me was having to leave her. I wanted so badly to stay with her 24/7, but I knew it wasn’t healthy for myself to do so. My days were the same everyday – Work, drive an hour and half to the hospital, spend some quality time with my baby, drive an hour and a half home, go to sleep, repeat.
3.Do you know what caused your premature birth?
This was my first pregnancy, and they still do not know what caused me to go into preterm labor. I was already too far progressed for them to stop the labor, so I had her that night.
4.How are you and your baby doing now?
This journey effected me in a way that I’d never be able to describe. It is something that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, but I’d never give it away. It has taught me patience, strength, and that all of the little things we get caught up in everyday don’t really matter.
Adeline is doing absolutely fantastic! She is almost 9 months old (5 1/2 adjusted) and she is meeting all of her milestones for her adjusted age! She is now 14.5lbs! We see a cardiologist every couple of months for a heart condition she has, and we go to our developmental follow ups every couple of months as well.
5. What advice would you give to a new preemie family?
If I could go back in time, I would take more videos of my sweet girl. I have tons of pictures, but not enough videos. Our babies are growing and changing with every small milestone they hit, and I think it is so important to document all of it. For support, I definitely recommend finding an outlet with people who understand. Find a Facebook group made just for preemie parents. Go and sit next to that person in the room, instead of eating alone. Learn other people’s stories, they know what you’re going through.