Ask Away Thursday
Welcome to our 2nd Ask Away Thursday! If you missed our first question/answer post, you can check it out HERE.
So what is Ask Away Thursday? I’ve teamed up with a bunch of awesome Mommy Bloggers to answer your parenting questions. It can be anything from potty training to schooling advice, with anything in between. Danielle from Serene Mom, Iyanna from YannivLovely, Nikki from Healing Mama Remedies, and Irina from Homegrown Adventures will also be giving their answer/opinion in their posts. We all may not have the same opinion or advice, which is the beauty of this series. Parenting is rarely a “one-size fits all” type of topic, so if you don’t find what you’re looking for here, please check out my tribe members’ blogs. Even if you do agree, please visit them anyways.
So, I have a 6-month-old son who rarely gets to be around people other than family. On New Year’s Day, we went our with my parents to a friend of theirs house for dinner. I knew no one there but my parents. My mom was walking around with my son, and the next thing you know, someone else is holding him. Now 3 different people are in his face. Meanwhile, I’m sitting there contemplating how not go off on them for not asking if they could hold him, or my mom for just giving him up so easily. Am I wrong for not wanting people to be all over my baby? Touching his hands, which stay in his mouth, face, etc.? They could sense my uncomfortable vibe and handed my baby over to me. Then they had the nerve to tell me to take their numbers because they would love to babysit because he liked them. I kindly (probably not to them) told them that I’m picky, and it’s not up to my 6-month-old. I know what’s best for him, and I still don’t know any of your names. (Smh) It just really bothered me, so when they left I told my mother that I don’t pass the baby around like a doll to strangers. Am I overreacting because he’s my firstborn?
Well, I may be the wrong person to ask, but no, I do not think you were overreacting at all.
When my oldest was a newborn, I did NOT like strangers sticking their heads into his stroller or grabbing his hands, let alone trying to hold him. I’m a bit of a germ-a-phobe, and if I don’t know you and your germs, please back away from my baby.
Babies haven’t had a chance to build up their immune systems like adults (or even older children) have. Plus, you’re right…they stick their hands in their little mouths all the time. So, if you’re touching my baby’s hand, whatever you just touched is going into their mouth. Yuck.
I know many people are of the belief that you need to build up a baby’s immune system, but I think they’ll have plenty of opportunities to get sick all on their own.
As a first time parent, your anxiety level is probably already high when you take your baby out in public, if you’re not used to doing it. There’s a lot to worry about, so you don’t need added stress of watching your baby being handed off to strangers. While your Mother may have known the person, she should have asked you first and introduced you before handing your baby off. I’m glad you talked to your Mom afterwards because I would have done the same thing.
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Do you agree with my advice? What would you have done in this situation?