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My First Baby and A Brother of Twins

June 28, 2015 By Shann 23 Comments

What is it like to be the brother or sister to twins?

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I often think about this and sometimes worry about my oldest son.  Does he feel left out?Does he wish he had a twin?  Is he jealous of the attention they get when we go out in public?

After I had my first son, I knew I wanted him to have a sibling.  I just didn’t know he would get two at once.  I also didn’t know what a hard pregnancy I would have, so I feel guilty that I missed out on part of his toddler years.

He had just turned 2-years-old when I became pregnant with the twins.  We had been trying for a few months, but nothing was happening. I was actually still nursing him, so thinking that might be the reason I couldn’t get pregnant, I slowly weaned him.  The next month, I was pregnant.

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If you’ve read my pregnancy story, you know how complicated it was.  It was really hard to take care of my two-year-old with all the physical and emotional stress I was going through.  Until that time, I had never been apart from my two-year-old for more than a couple of hours.  During the last part of the pregnancy, I had to shuffle him between Grandparents and Cousins.  I had to spend many nights apart from him, which broke my heart.

Even though he was so young, and probably doesn’t even remember, I still worry that it had an effect on him.

Once the twins were born, it was even more complicated.

He wasn’t allowed in the NICU because he was so young. At our hospital, children must be at least 3-years-old with current vaccinations to protect all the tiny, sick babies.  I, of course, understood the rule, but it was so hard.  I had to split my time between the hospital with the twins and my baby at home.  I never felt like I was in the right place for the right amount of time.

When they were released, there were still complications.  We had nurses and physical therapists coming to the house, plus we had tons of appointments outside the home.  Other than that, we couldn’t take the babies anywhere because of the risk them getting really sick. This prevented me from taking my then 3-year-old to any type of play group or place with a lot of kids.  I just couldn’t chance him getting sick and spreading the germs to his brothers.

I also had to wait on signing him up for preschool until just this last Fall.

So, even though he missed out on a ton of interaction with his peers, and missed out on some quality mommy time, I know deep down that he’s fine.  I just have to push down that worry I get every once in a while.

He’s smart, curious, and always thinking.  He’s a master Lego builder, loves finding out how things work, and an amazing artist. He’s still my biggest cuddler, and always tells me he loves me.

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So, is he sad he’s not a twin?  Maybe sometimes.  Heck, I’m sad I’m not a twin.

Will he be happy he has twin brothers?  For the most part, I think he’s happy with them right now.  I think he wishes they were a little older, so they could play with him more, but that will come soon enough. I know he loves them, even if he doesn’t always like them.

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Is he jealous of the attention? For the longest time, I had to find matching outfits for everyone.  People would often think they were triplets when we went out, which I think he liked.  We’re finally hitting the point where he’s OK if he’s not matching.  I think school is helping him gain his independence even more.  His biggest concern now is that he’s missing out on something fun while he’s at school…which I assure him that school is WAY more fun.

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As with any brother/sister/sibling relationship, there’s bound to be struggles.  I think we’ve been through some tough circumstances, but I hope we’re on the other side of them now.

I look forward to watching all three of my boys grow up together, and I hope they all have a strong bond. I know for sure they’ll have one thing in common…how much I love them.

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Filed Under: Twins Tagged With: Brother, brothers, high risk pregnancy, jealous, NICU, oldest, pregnancy, premature birth, sibling to twins, siblings, singleton, sisters

Comments

  1. Emily says

    June 28, 2015 at 9:42 am

    Those are probably some common worries for all parents even without twins. Some siblings just get along better but in the end I’m sure they’ll love each other as much as any other brother relationship!

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    • Shann says

      June 28, 2015 at 1:45 pm

      Thank you!

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  2. Angie says

    June 28, 2015 at 10:38 am

    They’re all cute!

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  3. Cynthia @craftoflaughter says

    June 28, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    I think he will be glad to be solo and I have no doubt you will do a great job encouraging and supporting him in finding his own way.

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    • Shann says

      June 28, 2015 at 1:46 pm

      Thank you Cynthia! I appreciate that.

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  4. chbernard says

    June 28, 2015 at 1:49 pm

    That must have been such a difficult time for your family! Your boys are beautiful! My husband is the oldest of 3 the other two are twins and I promise he turned out ok 🙂 Though I am sure there are many feelings that are associated with being the sibling of twins, the same is probably true for the twins! You are doing a great job it is very evident by their adorable smiles!

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    • Shann says

      June 28, 2015 at 2:31 pm

      Thank you so much! And that’s encouraging to hear about your husband 🙂

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  5. susanmahlburg says

    June 28, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    We have two girls (3 yr, & 6 mo), and I definitely thought about twins at the beginning of each pregnancy, and what life would be like for the “other child”. I was supposed to be a twin (my mother had complications), and my maternal grandmother is a fraternal twin. She has a younger sister, but I imagine it might be more interesting for the older sibling to be the non-twin.

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  6. byecomparison says

    June 28, 2015 at 4:50 pm

    It’s interesting to me to think about. I always wanted a sibling, desperately, and never got one. I hadn’t ever thought about what it would be to be the sibling of twins. I suppose with any dynamic there are pros and cons (from the sibling’s point of view). It sounds like he’s a wonderful big brother 🙂 Beautiful little crew you’ve got!

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    • Shann says

      June 28, 2015 at 5:14 pm

      Thank you Brooke!

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  7. Leslie says

    June 28, 2015 at 4:53 pm

    Aww! Your kids are so cute! I have a twin brother but it is just us two. We were supposed to have an older brother but he didn’t make it. My mom has a friend who got pregnant with triplets then a year later got pregnant again. All four of them stick together, it’s so sweet.

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  8. sachacreate says

    June 28, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    Yay!! I get to meet all three lol since im a fan of the twins! lol They are so awesome

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    • Shann says

      June 28, 2015 at 8:38 pm

      Awe. Thank you so much!

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  9. Vicki says

    June 28, 2015 at 9:05 pm

    My brother are not twins, but they might as well be. They are closest in age out of the 3 of us, which means they have always done things with each other. I’ve always been “the other one”. It used to bother me when we were younger that they had such a close relationship with each other and not me, but as we’ve gotten older life seems to have evened us out.

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  10. Britt says

    June 29, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    He is so incredibly adorable! I am an only child so I think it is great when siblings are close!

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  11. Heather H says

    June 29, 2015 at 10:06 pm

    I have an older singleton and younger twins too. Three is definitely a challenging number of siblings! When my singleton son feels left out, sometimes I try to remind him that he’s gotten more one-on-one time with mommy and daddy than the twins have. As for mommy guilt, I feel badly that I haven’t better managed to get one-on-one time with each twin. I’m trying to fix that!

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    • Shann says

      June 29, 2015 at 10:14 pm

      It’s so hard to find the time to spend with all of them individually, but you’re right, it’s so important. Thank you!

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  12. strollersavvy says

    July 1, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    I worry about the same thing. My son adores his younger twin siblings, but I always worry about him feeling left out. We probably overcompensated and paid him a little too much extra attention when they were first born!

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    • Shann says

      July 1, 2015 at 8:19 pm

      Ha! Yes, exactly. 🙂

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  13. Wisemommies says

    July 3, 2015 at 9:43 am

    Shann, This is 100% in every way my story. Thank you for writing this post. I’d love to connect and support one another: Beth, http://www.wisemommies.com Your boys are precious!

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    • Shann says

      July 3, 2015 at 2:12 pm

      That would be awesome Beth. Thank you! I’m going to visit you right now.

      Reply
  14. Mommy A to Z says

    July 3, 2015 at 10:15 pm

    I never thought about what it must be like to be the sibling of twins. I love how you bought them all matching outfits…what a good mama! Your boys look really close, and really adorable 🙂 Thanks for linking up at the Manic Mondays blog hop!

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    • Shann says

      July 3, 2015 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you! And thanks for hosting!

      Reply

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